Last week, I signed up to the Michelle Bridges 12 Week Body Transformation program. As I was browsing the forum and reading about the commitments people had made to themselves, I came across something that really struck a cord – the commitment to focus on what you can do, not what you can’t do.
Three years ago, I injured my knee in a car crash. Ever since then, far too much of my life has been spent worrying about what I can’t do. I can’t run, I can’t walk up hills, I can’t squat, I can’t lunge, I can’t kneel, I can’t jump, I can’t sit cross legged, I can’t walk that far, I can’t walk that fast, I can’t keep up, I can’t do what everyone else is doing – I can’t, I can’t, I can’t.
And while most of those things are still true I’ve finally realised that the “I can’ts” are not what I should be focusing on, because there are still so many things I can do. There are things I can work towards doing, things I can do to get stronger. And perhaps the most important thing I can do – change my mindset.
I can acknowledge a bad day is just a bad day, without spiraling into “what ifs” and “I’ll nevers”. I can choose not to focus on pain and focus on the things that make me happy.
It’s not easy. Just days after I had this realisation, I found myself sitting on the couch with an ice pack on my knee, thinking “I’ll never be able to get to a healthy weight if I can’t even exercise properly.” Well, the 12 week program has already proved that’s not true, and given me a huge sense of achievement. I may be following the lowest and gentlest exercise program – but you know what, I can do it. And that’s a great feeling.
It’s an attitude I hope to carry into the rest of my life. I don’t want to focus on the things I can’t change – like other people’s opinions or reactions, like legalities and lawyers and skewed systems, like bosses or friends who will never change. From now on, it’s all about focussing on what I can do, what I can work on, what I can strive to improve.
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